But the buffet isn't food, it's people.
There are phenomenal people all around me in the here in Redding, California, in the ministry school program my husband and I are in. These people are fascinating, compassionate, influential people and I've had coffee dates with a bunch of them.
But I'm lonely.
Yes, I admit it, I'm lonely for community, for friends who truly know me.
We've only been here for 18 months. And I'm realizing that relationships take time. And I'm also realizing that perhaps I made a crucial strategic error: I tried to be friends with too many people.
Choose your people. Commit. Go deep. |
I, on the other hand, was fickle. I wanted to get to know a lot of people. And now I find myself running from party to coffee date to group meeting to lunch date, still getting to know amazing people, but not feeling like I belong with anyone.
If I have one pearl of wisdom to offer from this experience: don't try to be friends with everyone. Choose your people. Commit. Go deep. Because having a few good friends beats having lots of friends. Community beats popularity. I know that firsthand now.
A good post, Anne. Something for me to think about.
ReplyDeleteNail on the head (for me too). As you know.
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